When people discover that I am engaged, the first question they ask is “Oooh! What’s the date?” After the when and where are discussed, the next inquiry is “Oooh! Where are you going on your honeymoon?” It is this second series of questions that always leaves me grasping for words. I wish I could spit something out like, “Well, I’m glad you asked because Kurt and I just booked a week-long stay on our own private island off the coast of Madagascar.” Or, “We decided to lay low and just go to Paris for a few days.” While both of these trips sound like an absolute dream come true, the truth is we don’t have any ‘moon plans. Though we are currently sans itinerary, this was not always the case.
Kurt and I have both been fortunate to travel to far and exotic places, though never together. He’s been down under in Australia, while I’ve had the opportunity to walk the Great Wall of China. After discussing our various travels, we realized there are many places we both have not visited and set about planning our dream getaway. Following in the footsteps of several of our engaged and recently wedded friends, we wanted to register for our honeymoon on one of the various websites that currently offer this service, such as honeyfund.com. With this newfound information we began designing an elaborate trip that took up from skiing in the Swiss Alps to wine tasting in Southern Italy, via train. How romantic!
Yet, the more research we did, the more limitations and fine print we ran into. For instance, many of the honeymoon registry websites we considered have partnerships with various travel agencies and resorts, forcing you to only accept funds that contribute to certain hotels/restaurants/airlines/etc. Kurt and I realized that in order to plan our absolute trip of a lifetime (with our crazy work schedule and limited time off, we really believe in the “Go Big or Go Home” mentality) we don’t want any limitations in the planning process so we moved onto “’Moon, Plan B.”
Realizing that we both will be taking a few days off work the week of the wedding, it would be unrealistic to take a 10-14 day trip this year. Therefore, we made the decision to put our grand excursion on hold while we catch our breath and get accustomed to wedded bliss. We still want to have a few days to ourselves directly following our wedding, so I had the brilliant idea of asking my dad if we could relax at his house in Santa Barbara, California. Great food, sunshine, and beach? I can’t imagine a better way to unwind as the new Mrs. Slade. When I asked my father if this would be ok, he was extremely gracious and said that he would love for us to use his home. As I began to express my gratitude, he continued with, “How great that you and Kurt want to stay with us! We can all play tennis and golf and go for bike rides!” It was at this moment that I realized my dad would be there as well. Don’t get me wrong—I love him very much, but don’t want to spend my mini ‘moon with him in the next room. Therefore, Kurt and I have moved onto “’Moon Plan C.”
Currently, there is no “’Moon Plan C” but I’m confident that we will come up with something extremely special. After all, I think Kurt is the only person on earth that I am content being with anywhere.