Seeing as Kurt and I are T minus three days from blasting off into wedded bliss, we are both surprisingly very calm. Everyone keeps asking us how we’re “holding up” and we don’t quite understand why we wouldn’t be just fine. Maybe we’re missing something, but rather than being stressed and nervous, we’re both pretty excited for Saturday! The only thing we’re a tad worried about is saying “I will” instead of “I do” for our vows. All this time we have been chanting “I DO! I DO! I DO!” to each other, until our minister threw a curve ball at us by preferring “I will.” All that practice down the drain . . .
The last couple of weeks have been a whirlwind of last minute planning, bachelor parties, and bridal showers. While Kurt headed east for one last hurrah with his buddies in Michigan, my mom’s friends hosted a lovely bridal shower for me. It was a night of laughs, stories, and lots of amazing gifts! I don’t think a party has been thrown just for me since I was 10. To have my close friends and relatives gather together in honor of my wedding was extremely special and something I will cherish forever. Not only were my mom and grandma Oma there, but Kurt’s mom, Jackie, also flew in from Michigan just to attend. Being surrounded by such amazing women eased any stress that I have been feeling about this upcoming weekend.
My bridal shower hostesses.
As I reflect back on my engagement period, I have several pieces of advice to offer brides-to-be:
1. While planning a wedding is stressful, keep in mind that your only goal at the end of the day should be to actually tie the knot. If that happens, the event is a success.
2. Include your hubby in as much of the planning as you can. Try to give him one or two tasks that he can tackle and take ownership of. Not only will this lighten your load, but will also make him feel important and needed.
3. Update your family regularly on any wedding-related decisions you make, even if you consider them to be minor. You don’t want any of your loved ones to feel out of the loop, even though it is your day. Keep in mind that they are just as excited about the wedding as you are, and appreciate following your progress.
4. Understand that at some point, something will go wrong. For example, the organist at our church became ill and won’t be able to be a part of the ceremony—and no other organists are available on such short notice. While this could have sent some brides over the edge, we are lucky enough to have a string quartet play instead. My point is to be prepared for the unexpected and solve it the best you can. I promise it will all be OK.
5. GET YOUR MARRIAGE LICENSE AT LEAST 5 DAYS BEFORE YOUR WEDDING. Seriously, it’s some kind of law—a law in which Kurt and I seem to be the only people in America that didn’t know. Luckily, we were able to obtain this important document with 20 minutes to spare before the Ridgedale Service Center closed.
That’s all I have for now. I’m officially signing off as a Woodhouse and will share wedding details with you once I’m Mrs. Slade!