Being the center of attention is hard. It’s not something I tend to seek out and usually leaves me feeling exhausted and drained. But being the center of attention kind of comes with the job when you’re having a wedding, especially as you inch closer and closer to the big day.
People start throwing you showers, and giving you gifts, and really just doing whatever they can to show their support and love. This is a huge treasure, but to be honest it was giving me a little anxiety. I knew it meant that Chris and I would be the center of attention and that was a bit nerve-racking for me. I tend to tell really horrible “dad-esque” jokes when I’m uncomfortable and I feared how many I would tell at the upcoming showers and events. But, having now attended my first bridal shower, thrown by amazing, lifelong friends of my mother, I have a few tips:
1. Trust. Trust that the people who offered to throw you this shower/party/event want to show you how much you are loved. That’s really what it comes down to, so no matter how many eyes are staring in your direction while you open gifts, remember everyone is there because they want to support you and share in your joy. (If that fails, picture everyone dressed in drag, which brings me to my next point . . .)
2. Smile, and laugh a little. I found it helpful to place myself next to friends who know how strange I can be. This way, if I ever did tell one of my horrible jokes (which I did quite often) they would laugh and spur me on.
3. Remember to breathe, take pictures, and look at the details. I was blessed to have the most magnificent, beautiful shower. It really was something that could have graced the covers of Martha Stewart Weddings, or at least ended up on Instagram. Take pictures to remember the amazing detail that went into the planning and execution of the event. It’s a huge testament to the people who host and a great reminder of how much they care.
4. Send thank you notes right away. I couldn’t control my bad jokes, so instead I decided to take control of how I thanked everyone. I actually sat down the afternoon after the shower and started to write them out so I could remember all the details of the event and hopefully include them in my notes.
I maybe wasn’t as smooth as I wanted to be at the shower, but I think of that as practice for the big day. So, if you have any great “dad jokes” you want to share, I’ve started a journal. I’ll keep them on-call for the next show.