Left to right: my mom, Collin’s mom, and friends Matt, Jen, and Hayley.
There are lessons to be found in everything that you do—Oprah taught me that—and planning a wedding is no different. From the art of compromise to the art of deciding on just the right color scheme, I’m quickly learning that operation: wedding bells, is a treasure trove of, “learning moments.” I’m also realizing that you can only do so much; you can only plan what’s able to be planned. So, with our nuptials more than a year away, I’m jumping all over the decisions we can make and not worrying about the ones that have yet to rise to the surface.
Color is one of those decisions we can decide and move on. Like many things in our lives and relationship, the choice came quick and easy. Collin and I are all about a clean and refined look for the wedding and the reception. So, we decided to go with a very simple white and champagne combination. White will be the primary color. As I learned from Father of the Bride, it goes with everything. Our flowers, which we haven’t made a final pick on exactly what type, will be white with maybe a hint of color. But just a hint. Due to the fact that we are having the wedding in the backyard of our house—the yet-to-be-built one—we will obviously be using a large, or several large, white tents, with a variety of lights and white accents throughout.
Our second color of champagne will be highlighted in our wedding party. And, because gay weddings are kind of a new frontier, old time traditions are interchangeable with fresh ideas and concepts. It’s with that spirit that we’ve decided to do the following; each of us will have a best man. My best dude will be my cousin Stan from Indianapolis, who’s more like a brother to me. We are both only children. Our moms are sisters and the two of us were basically raised together. And, fun fact, Stan is gay too! It’s like a 21st century version of The Patty Duke Show. Collin has chosen his younger brother, Leo, whom I absolutely adore. As I said, I don’t have any siblings, so I can’t tell you how great it is that Leo and I are basically two peas in a pod. We are both Star Wars geeks and get along famously.
Each of us will also have three bridesmaids. I have chosen one of my lifelong friends, Angela, whom Ive known since I was 12 years old. And, I’ve picked two Minnesota friends, Jennifer Lueck, owner of The Buttered Tin restaurant in St. Paul, and Hayley Hearst, who is now the executive producer of, Good Day L.A. Collin has chosen three lovely ladies whom he’s known since high school. And, all of our bridesmaids will be dressed in . . . oh wait, the dress decision hasn’t been made yet. I know, I know, but there are so many choices.
In addition to the so-called wedding party, we have also each chosen a friend to speak during the ceremony. We thought this was a nice touch and goes with our desire to keep it a bit casual but still meaningful.
Stay tuned: Maybe we’ll have made a decision about the bridesmaid dresses by the time the next blog goes up!