The end is near! In just under a week I will become Mrs. Elisa Becker-Herby. I will embark on a new phase of my life . . . one where I not only have to spell out and explain my first name, but my new fancy last name as well. Times sure are a changin'. And while it sounds completely cliche, it really feels like the end snuck up on me.
It's officially go time for the Becker/Herby wedding clan. The final stages of the planning process have actually been my favorite. All of the big things are done and the small things remain. While I doubt my mother would agree with me, everything left to do is a "nice to have." Nothing will be ruined or fall apart if the programs don't get here in time or the gift bags aren't perfect. Not to say that I've stopped stressing out completely, of course. I've become a big fan of checklists and calendar reminders (I've never appreciated smart phones more) and our big household whiteboard is covered in reminders.
To pay tribute to this final phase of my wedding adventure, I would like to present you with one more list. The List of Last Minute Wedding Things I Forgot to Remember Until They Happened!
- Your wedding shoes need to fit. Perfectly. While Past Elisa was very considerate of Future Elisa when I bought my shoes nine months ago, Current Elisa waited until last week to take them to a shoe repair shop to get inserts to actually make them fit. Turns out my "easy fix" is really an impossible one, and anything short of an Elves and the Shoemaker-type storybook miracle isn't going to help me. Exactly two weeks before my wedding I had to order four pairs of replacement shoes from Zappos on overnight shipping, crossing my fingers that something would work. Who knew that red satin peep toe with an ankle strap isn't really a common option?
- This might not be the best time for your first-ever professional bikini wax. I won't go into detail, I promise. But let's just say that the Wikipedia article about the different types has officially scared me off for good. (Don't look it up at work. Seriously.)
- The same could potentially be said about a professional spray tan. Alright, so my trial run at the Ivy Club did go pretty well and I managed to avoid a very Friendsesque level 12 on one side, 1 on the other side scenario. (And isn't it amazing that Friends relates to every life situation?) However, the "disposable undies" they provided has led to some pretty hilarious tan lines, and definitely wasn't prepared for 10 straight minutes of half-naked conversation about my honeymoon in Mexico. Apparently when you're a bride-to-be you lose your right to modesty. However, I would recommend the in-person airbrushing experience if you're looking to try it out. (I'm looking at you, pale winter brides!)
- "Easy" last-minute DIY projects usually aren't that easy. I thought it would be no problem to make my own ceremony programs that mimicked the style of our invites. I probably should have reminded myself that I'm not a DIY bride for a reason. I assumed there would be a bounty of free, downloadable templates and perfectly matching fonts. I panicked when I found no templates, couldn't find even a similar font, and remembered that MS Word is not InDesign. I reverted back to my original mantra of "Leave It to the Professionals," and called up Tim's graphic designer uncle. Lesson learned.
- Weddings really show you how much people care and love you. I've spent a lot of time discussing wedding stress and expectations. But as the moment creeps closer, I have been overwhelmed by the generosity and kindness of our friends and family. All of our parents friends have offered to take on any wedding task we need. Friends have traveled from far and wide to make it to bachelor/bachelorette parties, throw showers, and lend their support. Some of the gifts we've gotten have absolutely floored me. We are so incredibly lucky to start off our marriage surrounded by such loving people.
A friend of mine recently told me that it finally hit her that she was getting married when she bought a jug of milk and the expiration date was after her wedding day. My big moment happened when I went on Weather.com and saw that the forecast for our day was posted (partly cloudy and 27 degrees- perfect!). It's happening, and it's happening soon.
It has been quite the experience this past year, and while I'm not going to miss the drama and the details and the endless to-do lists, I am going to miss the excitement and anticipation. This is my last post before I become a married woman, so I will leave you with my final piece of advice:
Don't panic! It's just a wedding, after all.
See you in early February, MSP brides. I'll come back with pictures, stories, and post-wedding words of wisdom. Wish me luck!