I recently got engaged and discovered first hand how crazy the whole wedding planning part actually is. But instead of letting the madness overwhelm me, I found solace in five simple activites. Here's what worked for me; hopefully this list helps you keep the gray hairs at bay, too—atleast most of them.
1. Go out to dinner with your new fiancé. The day we got engaged we were in so much shock, and flooded with emotion that it was difficult to even process. The next day Chris made a dinner reservation for just the two of us. We got to look at each other and actually realize “Woo! I’m going to marry you.”
2. Get a new e-mail address or make a folder within your existing e-mail account that's dedicated solely to “wedding business.” One added bonus to getting a new e-mail address is that you can share the logins with your fiancé, family, or bridal party—basically anyone you want to be able to assist you in the process. Then, once you’re hitched, you can delete the account and avoid all things bridal that remind you you’re an "old married person" now!
3. Pick a buddy. Whether that means a family member, friend, or wedding planner, get someone who is knowledgeable when it comes to wedding planning. We found that a lot of people are willing to provide their opinions, but only a few select people are actually willing to assist with the nitty gritty, like researching venue pricing. I was lucky enough to have a friend at work willing and capable of holding my hand through the process, since she herself had just planned her own wedding. I’m not sure she realized how hopeless I was when she offered to help, but she hasn’t quit yet!
4. Decide what five things you care most about. This can be a bit harder than it sounds, because at the start of planning you may think the venue is most important, and then later realize your number one priority is actually good food. Our five things changed a little but boiled down to:
5. Sign up for yoga, Pilates, or some other stress-reducing, sweat-inducing activity. After a long day of work and wedding planning, and other life to-dos all I think is “I bet Corepower Yoga will kick my butt hard enough that I will literally not be able to think of anything other than how I will lift one leg in front of the other.” Doesn’t that sound great?