I'm convinced that there's only one circumstance in most men's lives when they're thrilled to have their photo taken: after he's bagged a deer/duck/elk or caught an enormous fish. If your guys aren't into hunting/fishing, I'm sorry. They probably never like posing for the camera. I'll have to ask my fellow MSP wedding blogger Jason Matheson if this holds true for same-sex couples (I kind of doubt it); in my relationship, it's spot on.
When the subject of photos at our wedding came up, Josh tried to convince me that "everyone has a smart phone these days, why do we even need a photographer?" Nice try, pal. It's one of the most important events in our lives, and many of our most important people will be there. Photos are a non-negotiable.
We booked the talented Jonny Edwin to take our wedding pictures. I was sold when I saw his stunning work; Josh was sold when Jonny told him he could probably get all of our wedding party pics taken in 20 minutes or less. When Jonny brought up the topic of engagement photos, Josh's expression morphed into something typically reserved for that moment before you choke down a shot of cheap bath tub gin. I read it in his eyes: No freakin' way.
Okay, I get it. Engagement photos can be so cheesy. For example—why are you sitting on a Victorian couch in the woods, holding a bouquet of balloons while you and your betrothed are staring, blankly, toward the camera? What is that? And then you add the fact that they're often shot in public, which can be downright embarrassing. However, adding them to our wedding photo package was a nominal fee. We'd be fools to opt out! Here's how I convinced Josh that we needed this engagement session.
1. It allows us to get to know our photographer. On our wedding day, it'll be Josh and me . . . and Jonny. From the pre-wedding festivities to our exit at the night's end, it'll be the three of us. Getting to know him is clutch and will make the big day more comfortable.
2. It will make us more comfortable in front of the camera. I think Josh's last photo shoot was his senior pictures, circa 2001. Getting your photo taken is a skill and sometimes a little practice is good.
3. We can do most of the photos at our house. Remove the embarrassment of a public photo shoot by taking photos at your own house, your parents' house or some other private place. In our case, this allowed for the two of us to get comfortable with having our photo taken before we headed into a more public space. By the time we were on Lake of the Isles (where we shot for about 40 minutes), Josh and I were in the groove of things. Plus, now we have awesome photos of the two of us together in our first place. How great is that?!
4. Fine, you can have a beer or two. As long as they're not in [many] of the photos. No explanation necessary.
5. These'll be great for our save the dates! And for hanging on our walls. And for using at our wedding. And for when we are old and wrinkled and want to show our grandkids how cool we once were.
The shoot with Jonny was great. He was a total pro who made us feel confident and comfortable (and no cheesy stuff, which we loved). Both Josh and I are thrilled with how the photos turned out and feel fortunate that Jonny’s on board for our special [12-hour] day!