"There's no turning back now!" I laughingly said to Jay as we left the UPS store. Piles and piles of save-the-dates are in the mail. And hopefully, we didn't miss anyone.
There's no question, the guest list and the budget are the two most difficult things to deal with when you are planning a wedding. Jay and I have big families, lots of friends, and people we work with who we genuinely like. But we also have a tight budget. And honestly, even if we had unlimited cash flow, we just don't want to spend a crazy amount of money on our wedding.
Balancing the two isn't easy. We decided this:
1) We simply can't invite everyone and have to be okay with that.
2) We have to add up the costs of the basics (people have to eat, drink, and be merry . . . that means food, booze, and music are top priority). We'll do what we can with the rest of it.
Aside from sending out 123 save-the-dates, we've made some other progress. Jay's co-worker recommended we meet with her photographer friend Erin Smith. We really want our photographer to capture the moments of the wedding we might miss. The candid shots of our friends and family getting to know each other. Hunger-inducing photos of platters of food. Tables designed by my mom. Minimal posed group pictures. Erin was not only totally on board, but excited about our vision. We're thrilled to work with her.
We brought flowers and pizza to Jay's nieces and asked them to be our flower girls. Both Audrey and Sofia bashfully smiled and said yes.
The bridesmaids dresses are all ordered and their shoes have already arrived.
We started shopping for wedding bands. Seeing Jay with a ring on his finger was incredibly attractive. Am I right here, ladies? :)
We met with our good friend Ted Farrell from Haskell's for a wine tasting. Most. Fun. Part!
And we booked the sister of one of my bridesmaids who works in event planning and happened to have an in-a-field, tented wedding of her own just a couple of years ago to coordinate the big day.
But of course, there are still a million things on the to-do list. I won't list all one million for you. But here's what's at the top of our list:
Location details: April snow set us back! We planned a site visit for the end of the month, but a couple of feet of snow kept us away.
Parking and transportation: We need to confirm exactly where our guests will park and how they will be shuttled to the property.
Bathrooms: Still getting bids.
It's also been fun to start planning all of the wedding related fun that's coming together this summer. My mom's friends are planning a shower in June, my girlfriends want to host a "friends" shower, and my sisters are planning a bachelorette getaway to my favorite city (Madison, Wis.!) in August. We're so blessed to have so many people who are excited to celebrate the official beginning of our lives together!