The fiancé and I attended a beautiful wedding in LA in October. The groom, a good friend of The fiancé, opted to wear a grey three-piece suit instead of a black tux. He had a small wedding party (just his three brothers) so they all bought matching suits. The fiancé loved how unique this was and upon our return to Minneapolis declared that he wanted light grey, three-piece suits for the wedding.
I appreciate when a guy wants to look different on his wedding day. My brother was one of the last of his friends to get married, and by the time it was his turn he knew his measurements for a classic black tux by heart. He opted to do a morning suit—my dad and his groomsmen wore one 35 years ago—and I loved how unique and original it was. That being said, light grey, three-piece suits probably weren’t going to work against the formality of our bridesmaid dresses—but I wanted The fiancé to get that original look he was craving. Plus, suits are often tricky when you have a large wedding party, because you ultimately have to ask people to purchase the suit in question. I’ve yet to hear of a suit rental place, but if you know of any, let me know so I can share with our readers!
Anyway, while we were home over Thanksgiving, we tackled a plethora of wedding to-dos. We checked out the hotels, viewed rehearsal dinner spaces, attempted and failed at a cake tasting, and we carved out about an hour to go in search of the perfect tux. Our local haberdasher knew we were coming and had a few books ready for us. I told them a head of time that we wanted something in the gray family, but I also made it clear that our wedding was rather formal, so we wanted something that would work with the theme.
Since our colors are primarily navy and grey, we thought charcoal tuxes might be a nice and different touch, but I wanted to make sure it still looked nice and not shiny (for some reason a lot of the grey suits I was finding online looked glossy . . . see picture at left).
We started sifting through the books and we were both immediately drawn to a charcoal Joseph Abboud tuxedo (see below), but not wanting to pull the trigger too early, we kept looking. After sifting through book after book, we both kept coming back to the charcoal one, so we decided it must be fate. From there we picked a navy blue vest and tied for the groomsmen, a matching navy blue cummerbund and bowtie for the fathers, and a grey vest and tie for The Fiance. Piece of cake—way easier than picking a bridesmaid dress. Lucky guys!
Since our mothers were anxiously awaiting our decision, we decided to play a little trick on them. The store let us take a picture home of the tux we’re actually using, but we also took a picture home of a white dinner jacket and navy slacks, and we attempted to convince the moms that this was the look we had chosen. The MOG took it in stride; my mom . . . . not so much. She just continued to say “really?” over and over in a high pitched, I-cannot-believe-you’re-doing-this voice. The fiancé was the first to crack, and lucky for both of us, she loved our final selection.
Now it’s on to the really tricky part of the groomsmen: getting their measurements. I’ll check back in about three months when we actually have them. . . .
Do you have any pointers on how to get the guys to share their measurements? And what is your take on the fiance wearing a different vest/ tie combo than the groomsmen? I'd love to hear your thoughts!