For those of you who aren't familiar with the process we went through with our Save-the-Dates, click here to get the back story. For those of you who have been following, I wanted to share the final product (if you haven't already seen it on my Editor's Letter in the most recent magazine). I scribbled out The Fiance's name (he's such a goof) and our website, but you get the general idea of the look and the feel we were hoping to accomplish.
It was with this design in mind that I headed to Paperista for round two of the design process: the invitations. There's something you should know about me before I delve into explaining this lengthy process . . . it's important in understanding the level of thought and consideration that had to go into every word, color choice, size, design element, etc. of the invites. You see, Emily Post is my mom's idol. Seriously. Most moms swoon over the thought of Donny Osmond or Mick Jagger. Not mine. Mine loves etiquette extraordinaire Ms. Post.
If you have yet to pick up our most recent issue of the magazine, click here for a copy. In it you'll find an interview that I conducted with Peggy Post, Emily's great-granddaughter-in-law. At the completion of our interview, I asked Peggy to send a signed copy of her most recent Weddings etiquette book . . . and let me just say, it was the best Christmas present my mom has ever received.
Anyway, I'm getting off topic. Back to the invites. We met at Paperista with owner Antoinette for what I knew would be a long meeting. Fortunately the save-the-dates set the tone for the invites, so we knew that the colors would be grey and navy and we already established the fonts. Rosann Konieczny Calligrapher did all of the custom calligraphy on the save-the-date, and once we had the design established, she was going to do the main words in calligraphy for the invite, as well. I knew going in to the meeting that I was going to have traditional wording, with few, if any, of the extra frills that stationers are now doing. Don't get me wrong, I love bright, colorful, funky invites. I just knew it wasn't going to fly with my parents, and it didn't really go with the classic and elegant feel I was striving to achieve. On the contrary, I also did not want to send out a boring, no frills invite. Cue the Paperista brain trust.
We started with the size. That one was easy: royalty. In my opinion, with the invite, the bigger, the better. With that decided, we quickly moved on to the design scheme. I wanted something that would unite all the elements (RSVP card, reception card, invite, envelope liners) but I didn't want anything too in your face or frilly. After many interesting attempts at describing a curly-cue(esque) concept (picture flailing arms and lots of scribbles) that I thought might be fun across the bottom of the invite in blind letterpress (that just means it's pressed in to the paper, but without any color), Antoinette felt confident that she could design something that would look both sophisticated and subtle, yet fun and unique. We then spent about 45 minutes discussing the other elements of the suit and varying ways to integrate said curlycues/swirls onto the pages.
My etiquettista of a mom (yes, I did just make up that word) was fine with the direction things were heading, but she held firm on the words:
MR. AND MRS. TIMOTHY JOHN HOWALD
REQUEST THE HONOUR OF YOUR PRESENCE
AT THE MARRIAGE OF THEIR DAUGHTER
yada yada yada
Every word choice on every page was her domain, which given my profession is a little comical. But, like I said before, this was not a battle I cared to fight. We had a slight moment of tension as to whether or not to include the hotels/ transportation information. Ms. Post of the past says no to all those extra details; it's an invite and that's all . . . my mom conceded to have one line on the reception card that said "Transportation from The Hyatt and Radisson Hotel will be provided." And that was it. If anyone needed more details, it was to the website they go! And in all honesty, I'm okay having not mussied up the invite, but I sure hope people like to save and still have the save-the-date, which has the link.
If you're wondering, here's everything we are having printed/ letterpressed: One formal invitation with the time of the Mass and the church name on it. A reception card with the details about where our reception is taking place and the much-discussed transportation line. An RSVP card (with little-to-no room for people to add in extra numbers . . . we are not including children since the guest list is already huge, and I am really hoping to avoid that awkward conversation when people RSVP for more individuals than were on the invite), a stamped envelope (with one of our engagement pictures as the stamp), an inner-envelope (with an envelope liner filled with the chosen curly cues), and the outer envelope.
I promise to post pictures once the invites go out. I've seen a few proofs, and thus far I am ecstatic with the results. We are moving on to work on the "extras," ie, the thank you notes, the welcome bag wording, the programs, etc. I'll keep you posted on the progress as it develops, but until then, Happy Planning!