Whenever wedding planning stresses me out, I do one of three things: Pour a glass of wine, flip through our engagement pictures, or rewatch our proposal video. I can't provide you with you the wine, but I can share with you my proposal video and my advice on engagement pictures. The proposal video includes photos and clips from when The Fiance popped the question. A photographer stalked us paparazzi style, and put that an a few video clips together for us. Whenever I get frustrated or feel like I'm doing more work than The Fiance is (it's a pretty universal feeling for brides-to-be at some point in time), I rewatch this video. After three short minutes, all the anger fades away and I'm reminded of the excitement I felt on that day about becoming his wife. Even if you don't have a video, I'm sure you have something that reminds you of how excited you felt when he got down on one knee . . . channel that and I promise you, at least some of the stress will melt away.
The engagement pictures, in my opinion, were like a trial run for the wedding, so whenever I look at those I get even more excited for the wedding. We had so much fun just hanging out together all day . . . laughing and letting it all be captured on film. I know some people think the engagement pictures can get pretty cheesy, which they can, but I really wanted to opportunity to get to know our photographer and see what worked and didn't work on film. And man, am I glad we met. We learned so much about what does and doesn't work photographically for us a s couple. I feel like I would have been really disappointed with our wedding pictures had we not had this first test run . . . not because of the photographer, but because of how we react to the camera. For example, The Fiance and I cannot do serious. I look like I'm going to kill someone, (seriously, I look just pissed off), and he looks like he's confused. Not exactly the look you want for your wedding day. But the entire time we were shooting, I felt so sultry and pensive . . then we saw the proofs. Nope, just mad. So now I know on the wedding day, that sultry look is just not for me.
We also learned that we both love to smile and smile with our whole face, which isn't exactly a good thing. The photographer kept trying to get The Fiance to pull off the cool-guy smirk, but we just kept on grinning, so for some our eyes are too squinty. On our wedding day, I know we'll be happy as can be, but we also want to make sure we're not squinting through the entire photo session. Everyone also says you get tired of smooching and laughing and all that mushy stuff, and it is a really long day of PDAs, but we kept each other laughing by keeping it goofy. There's this ridiculous picture of The Fiance making a funny face and I'm rolling my eyes at him that turned out to be one of both of our favorites.
Finally, we realized that the ones we like best are really when we're doing something comfortable that we do as a couple. When I was resting my head on his shoulder like I do at night or hugging him how I hug him to say goodbye . . . those were the most natural and the most stunning. I feel like thanks to this shoot we're equipped with the tools we need for our wedding day, are you?? Share with us on our Facebook page what you learned from your engagement shoots. What else helps cam you down when things get stressful? I'd love to hear!