When Kurt and I became engaged last December, October 19 seemed years away. First would come Christmas, then New Year’s, then a long bleak winter followed by a long hot summer. Realizing that all of these standard year markers would occur before the wedding put a whole lot of time between then and the fall. It wasn’t until I was playing on my iPad the other day that I realized how close our day is coming . . .
While lounging in bed last weekend, I decided to rekindle my love with “Words With Friends.” I had just ridden poorly in a horse show and had a sudden desire to beat someone at something (and since I usually have 10 or so games going simultaneously the odds of a victory are always in my favor). As I began scrolling through the many Apps I’ve downloaded, I came across a “Wedding Countdown” I had bought for $0.99 soon after Kurt asked me to marry him. The last time I looked at it I think it said “202 Days Until Kurt and Ashley Tie the Knot.” In my daily life, 202 days might as well be 10 years, so you can imagine my surprise when the device started flashing “87 Days Until Kurt and Ashley Tie the Knot!” That’s less than three months! I suddenly got that feeling I sometimes had in high school when I realized I had a test the next day and hadn’t studied (ok, that never happened, but I’ve dreamt it).
I immediately began going through a mental checklist of all the tasks I have yet to complete: bridesmaids gifts, dress alterations, shoes, help Kurt get tux, finalize guest list, order things for hotel guest goody bags, etc. While these are manageable chores, I always feel like I am forgetting something, like “Oh yeah! Flower girl dress!” How a bride is able to do all of this herself without a wedding planner or ambitious bridesmaid is beyond me. If it weren’t for Sally (the best wedding planner in the whole world), I would be so overwhelmed and stressed that I’d probably either be in jail or a mental health center.
Checking one item at a time off of my “To-Do” list is proving to be the best method, rather than attempting to tackle everything at once. For instance, after I’m finished writing this, I’m going to POSH to pick up my dress that just came in. Pick up dress: CHECK! I feel better already.
Thanks to all of the help I’ve received from Sally, my family, and BFF Ali, I am actually able to enjoy the stresses of planning a wedding. While I know there is still a lot to do, I have a power team behind me to keep everything on schedule and not let details fall through the cracks.
One of my clients recently reminded me that this process only happens once in your life, so you should enjoy every minute of it. I think this is great advice—especially when you’re overwhelmed—and would encourage every bride-to-be to take a moment each day to be grateful for the love you have found.