Summer brides are likely in the throes of collecting their RSVP cards, which as any married man or woman can attest, getting those responses in is no easy feat. The collecting, the deciphering, the unwanted additions; this is one of the most stressful and complain-worthy parts of the wedding process. Insitead of being shocked and awed by some of the craziness that you'll receive in the coming weeks, here's a heads up of some of the most common RSVP faux pas. Consider yourself warned. 1. The Non-RSVPer You know who you are (and you likely who it will be from your guest list). This rather frustrating individual always forgets or conveniently "misplaces" the RSVP card to any and every event. Heck, you may have even been a late RSVPer yourself, but having gone through this process, I bet my bottom dollar that your response will come in on time from this day forward. Often times it's your friends (I think we had about a 50 percent response rate with our wedding party), but every now and again there's a shocking adult in there who should know better. Prepare yourself for at least a couple dozen phone calls that will need to be made the day the RSVP cards are due. Make a list; separate it out between yourself, your man, your parents, and his parents, and then hit the phone. The sooner you can get your final head count, the better, and maybe they'll learn a little lesson in time for the next bride. 2. The Non-Plus One Plus One How this happens is beyond me, yet it sometimes still happens: The invite is sent out addressed to a single individual and it comes back with a yes on behalf of two (or more people). Read the envelope, people! If this happens to you, do not be afraid to address the situation head-on. It is impolite of them to ask to bring a guest, and you are not rude in saying no. Call the guest and apologize for the confusion, but unfortunately due to space limitations, the invite was intended solely for that person. If there's a welcome gathering on Friday night or an informal afterparty, it's an option to allow their guest to come for that portion of the evening, however, that is you being nice. Do what makes you comfortable, but stand your ground! The day is about you and not them. 3. The My Kids Are Coming Even if They Aren't Invited Parents No, they aren't. Many parents do this knowing full well that children are not included or invited merely as an attempt to bully you into letting them bring their brood. Stand your ground. If no children are included at your wedding, explain that you, as the host, made a conscious choice to make this an adult-only event. Tell them that you sincerely hope they can make it, but understand if it doesn't work with their schedules. You may even want to go so far as to offer babysitter recommendations, but that's all you need to do. This is their breach of etiquette, not yours. 4. The Last Minute Switcharoo Life happens, plan for it. The only "acceptable" reason a guest should change their yes to a no is if there's an illness, injury, death, travel snafu, or unavoidable work conflict. As the host, you should get a heads up on this (we were switching our table arrangements the morning of the wedding due to sick kids). Expect this is going to happen and embrace it. And know that the opposite may happen. Someone might come who did not RSVP or responded no (how rude, right?). To be on the safe side, allow for at least two empty seats at a table in the back that could be filled by stragglers. **This can also be a saver in case there's a little mix-up with your seating chart. If you stumble on any other RSVP conundrums, share them with us on our Facebook page. We're always happy to help, and wish you all the best in your planning process. The end is near!