I like to think that it's because I hold myself to a high standard of gift giving that I struggle. Will she love it? Does he already have one similar? Would she want gray or orange? And then, to ease the stress, I step back and think: Well, I know I love it. And I know I don't have one, and I'd take the orange. And so I do. Of course this just perpetuates the problem. No one knows what else to buy me because they believe I've been so consumed with shopping for myself, and, it can't be denied, I still don't have gifts for them. There is a way to end this shopping drama: Wish Lists. That's right. There's nothing distasteful about telling someone what you want. Think of it as a gift, really, to help them gift you well. You're happy, they're happy, retailers are happy that we aren't all returning things. Some boutiques are having a lot of fun with wish lists this season: martinpatrick3 in the North Loop will actually send a card on your behalf to Santa (or Mommy, or anyone with a zip code, really) telling them what you want. StyledLife at Galleria is making wish lists a two day party this week. It's called Show the Love. From 5 to 9 p.m. Wednesday, Dec. 14, the ladies are invited to shop and fill out a wish list, which StyledLife will present to the men the next evening, 5 to 9 p.m. Thursday, Dec. 15, when they are invited to shop, drink, and watch a little Sports Center while their perfect gifts are being wrapped. Music, refreshments and more frivolity will ensue both nights. Whatever boutique you're shopping, just ask--they are glad to help your wishes get fulfilled. Because telepathy just isn't all that reliable.