When I present a bill for payment to the server with cash inside that slick little black book, it never fails that the restaurant employee asks if I would like change. Why ask this question? If there is more money in the book than what is stated on the check, then yes I want change and will leave you what I deem an appropriate tip. This is a ponderance that is none of the server’s beeswax. The passive-aggressive bent here is that the server is trying to guilt me into giving more than I would or should give.
The money in that check presenter is mine until I say so, isn’t it? I emphatically believe a server should pick up the presenter with the cash and return with full change. Is this question just to save them a trip back to my table? Isn’t returning the change a perfect time to solidify a good tip with a cordial salutation?