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By: | Posted: 11/19/2010
I don’t know if I have mentioned this before, but I LOVE weddings. I love them so much that I have been in 23! (OK, I know many of you are thinking . . . ”Wait a minute—this sounds like that Katherine Heigl movie . . . nice try”). It is true, however I was not a bridesmaid in all of those weddings (like in the movie 27 Dresses). I have played numerous different roles, from a bridesmaid, to pianist, florist, and personal attendant. In a few weddings I have been a bridesmaid and pianist or bridesmaid and florist; however I have yet to have been all three, which I call the "trifecta" of wedding fun! The amazing thing is every wedding I have been in, played for, or done flowers for, has been for friends and it means so much that I could be a part of their special day.
Some bouquets I have done for friends:
As far as music goes—this is where I get really geeked up!! I love sitting down with a bride and groom to plan their special day. What processional song he is going to hear as she walks down the aisle to him? What song are you and your wedding party going to skip out to as you celebrate your new union? The ceremony music makes the service so touching and personal, I want it to be a real reflection on us.
One of the first things we actually had decided on for the wedding was the ceremony music, which many people save until the end. Take that wedding checklist, I am actually ahead on one item!!! We are planning on a male and female vocalist, oboe, bassoon, and violin (maybe cello). I am thinking about writing instrumental parts for some songs, but again I am thinking I may be a little overzealous! Let’s focus on the basics, Jennifer—like getting a dress!
The best advice I have for enjoying your special day is don’t take too much on yourself. It may seem doable now, but as it gets closer to the date, things will get busy and you don’t need to be superwoman. Those amazing friends who offer to help you really do mean it, so take them up on it. (P.S. I am horrible at asking for help so this is a stretch for me too)!
My best tips for recruiting help (because you will need it SuperBride):
1. Make a list of the items you will need help with (i.e. assembling invites, programs, stuffing those cute little favor boxes) and recruit friends. Make it a fun night with talking, food, and maybe even some drinks (just make sure no one spills after a few glasses of vino)!
2. Assign someone to help be in charge the day of your wedding—including helping round up family members for pics, making sure everyone has boutonnieres/corsages, packs up your stuff after the ceremony, etc. A personal attendant is your secret weapon that day (note: sometimes it is fun to have a personal attendant pair/dynamic duo so they can have fun together that day as well)! If you are not interested in having a personal attendant, many wedding coordinator companies offer the ability to hire someone for just the day of your wedding (if you don't have the budget for a full time coordinator).
3. Hand off some duties to your wonderful groom! The last thing he wants is a stressed bride so don’t feel like you have to take everything on.
Any other ideas or tips on saving your sanity?
Jen and I as the "Dynamic Duo" of personal attendants for Casey's wedding
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